Smell the Roses (or essential oils) ~ Music Monday Care & Love ~ Week 7

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen, how are you this week?
Did you allow yourself to get physical, or was that too much to ask for?

Maybe it was because neither JoAnna nor Emilia shared their self-care journey this week. That’s fine because Music Monday Care & Love is a place of freedom to come and take part whenever it is good for you! You also do not need to start at the beginning of my posts. Just jump in whenever it suits you and try out my challenges or just allow yourself to celebrate your unique being and what you have achieved throughout your life. There is a lot if you just have a closer look!

The Bee’s Self-care exploration last week

I got physical though. Last week I shared with you my weight loss journey with the Samsung Health app on my phone. For the last week, I chose to do 10 000 steps a day and I am happy to announce I managed besides yesterday. A couple of days even more. It incorporated some silly walking from the kitchen through the living room to our “library” and back for hours on end (just joking). But I got there and it will need the whole of next week to celebrate THAT!

Astonishingly, it was not as much of a chore as I expected and in fact, it exhilarated me. It also made me more active in other areas like looking for a job, trying out new recipes and do more gardening so I might keep this challenge up for the rest of my life.

Self-Care Music of last week?

And which music accompanied me with this challenge? None to speak of, to be honest. I haven’t been listening much to music this week and I don’t really know why. I had the TV running continuously with programs like “Escape to the Country”, “Royal Recipes” and any food program available to get some ideas about what to cook. My husband has a new job and works longer so I have taken over the daily cooking. And I needed some inspiration. That might be the reason why. However, I will still share a song with you.

It is Rihanna’s “Please don’t stop the music” because it always makes me move and dance along. Actually, I am dancing around on my chair just now LOL. I am not as courageous as our PM though and do it public 😉

Right, on and upwards and to next week’s

Music Monday Care & Love self-care challenge.

I better get back to more calmer waters and water is something you need for it: This week we are having a look into essential oils. They are a great way to help you relax when you diffuse your favourite fragrance.

But what are essential oils?

Essential oils are also called “volatile oils, ethereal oils, aetherolea, or simply as the oil of the plant” they are made of but are not oils as such. They are a liquid that holds the “scented” parts of the plant.

According to Wikipedia they are “generally extracted by distillation, often by using steam. Other processes include expression, solvent extraction, sfumatura, absolute oil extraction, resin tapping, wax embedding, and cold pressing. They are used in perfumes, cosmetics, soaps and other products, for flavoring food and drink, and for adding scents to incense and household cleaning products.”

Essential doesn’t mean here it’s indispensable but it contains the essence of the plant it is derived from. The usual sources are roots, bark, flowers and seeds. Essential oils are not only used in Aromatherapy but also in foods and perfumes for example.

As usual, the use of essential oils in self-care is a very personal occasion. There are people who react with rashes and other allergic reactions to the use of essential oils while others swear by their use.

I have no problems with essential oils and even use them for healing. Geranium oil, for example, is a brilliant help against colds and flu. However, most people believe there is not enough scientific evidence to support its use. Well, I do not give much to scientific evidence. I like to try things out and if they have an effect then I use them. That is how I started to use Geranium oils against colds. And surely the spoken and written evidence of healers and shamans for more than 2000 years should be evidence enough that it works? Well, that depends on your point of view I guess 🙂

Also many warn about the side effects. Well, first of all, pharmaceutical remedies do not have any side effects at all, have they? Sorry for being sarcastic. And secondly, you, of course, need to know how to use them. That should be common sense. Sorry again for being sarcastic. I can’t help it sometimes.

You can use essential oils in many ways but I think it is best to diffuse them if you are a beginner. This way you can figure out how you react to essential oils but still reap their benefits.

For self-care purposes, I would suggest using fragrances that calm you down. There is most famously the good old lavender but if that is too old-lady for you then try out any citrus oil.

Mind, Body, Green named 13 essential oils that help you relax which are

“ 1. Rose: the queen of oils to help with all stress issues

2. Frankincense: relaxing and aromatic

3. Lavender: soothing; builds solidarity and strength

4. Bergamot: calming; relieves mild anxiety

5. Marjoram: provides relief from emotional pain and grief

6. Vetiver: restores a sense of absolute grounding and cools those hot emotions

7. Chamomile: calming, soothing, medicinal

8. Lemon: gentle and refreshing

9. Geranium: cheery; helps to improve downward spiralling moods

10. Cinnamon: its sweetness invites you to love what you do for work

11. Fennel: helps you be kind to yourself

12. Rosewood: allows love flow to the heart centre

13. Ylang Ylang: releases anger and frustration

Taken from Mind, Body, Green: 13 Essential oils to Reduce Stress

I am not a particular fan of Vetiver which has a rather smoky smell to it but I like most of the others. Ylang Ylang is one of my favourites however, it has a rather strong and sweet smell and that is not everybody’s thing.

So what is the self-care challenge for this week?

Choose one of the 13 named fragrances by Body, Mind, Green and allow yourself to relax with it. It does not need to be an essential oil which can be rather expensive. Choose tea which works for camomille, fennel and bergamot (Earl Grey is fragranced with bergamot), a flower as in rose and lavender or even a herb like in marjoram.

Allow yourself some time every day next week to sit and smell not only the roses 😉 but anything that makes you relaxed and maybe you could write down your experiences in your journal. This way you can keep the experience for further reference and also have an idea on how to use your journal this week.

As for the music.

Find an acapella (singing but no instruments) song that relaxes you.

So there we are. Set for another week of self-care exploration.

To remind ourselves what we are doing
here are the suggestions on how to take part.


  1. ~ I invite you to appreciate yourself!
  2. ~ Don’t worry if you are not part since the beginning. You can join anytime! We are looking forward to meeting you!
  3. ~ Preferably appreciate yourself at the beginning of the week but if that does not fit, feel free to choose another time.
  4. ~ I invite you to do this with music and to explore a self-care activity
  5. ~ Feel free to write a blog post about your experiences but it is perfectly fine if you just do it for yourself or if you share in the comments
  6. ~ Also, feel free to incorporate self-care into your everyday life.
  7. ~ If you write a post please leave your link here in the comments that we all have the chance to cheer you on!
  8. ~ Go and visit your fellow self-care explorer’s posts & blogs
  9. ~ I’ll share a round-up & invitation post with a self-care activity & suggestion on what sort of music to share on Sunday afternoons.
  10. If you want to share your journey in a more private setting: Feel free to join the Google Group: Music Monday Care & Love


smell the roses, EXPLORE SELF-CARE



Essential Oils on Wikipedia

Essential Oils on Holistic Shop

Essential Oils on Lush

Mind, Body, Green: 13 Essential Oils to Reduce Stress



I am not a health professional. My posts describe my thoughts, my experiences and my conclusions about life, mental health and self-improvement. My described actions always go alongside therapy and do not substitute professional advice by a health professional be it a doctor, therapist or counsellor.

I invite you to try out self-care tools, however, if any of these make you feel uncomfortable please stop and do not go further ahead. Also, if any of the tools suggested bring up issues that need dealing with do not hesitate to reach out for professional help.

To recognise when you need to stop and when to reach out for professional or any other help is one important part to learn when it comes to self-care.

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