Mindful Monday ~ Bugger That! (Sorry for my bad language)

April 2019

Maybe it is time for me to stop pondering and just do…

December 2017

I am pondering to bring Mindful Monday back. For now, I’ll give you a couple of old ones to see what you think.

Here is one that fits perfectly at Christmas time. I admit I repeat myself with this one but it’s an important topic so please bear with me.

October 2016

Feeling guilty is a huge topic for survivors of abuse and it has been on my mind for a long time. Of course, those in Christian countries December is a month of feeling guilty too: You remember all those relatives and friends whom you haven’t contacted in ages and you eat much more than you should.

In June I wrote a post about guilty feelings with some bad language 🙂 and I thought I’ll share it again. Here you go:

June 2016

Welcome to Mindful Monday a blogging event that has been created by Colleen over at Silverthreading* (the feature and the blog does not exist anymore but you can find Colleen here) but for a while is hosted here at “A Spirit of Healing”*(the blog does not exist anymore but some of its posts are integrated here). Colleen follows her call to tell the fairies stories, so her blog follows other paths.

Therefore, I have stepped in as I believe Mindful Monday is important, and it is important to have it as a weekly feature. Thanks, Colleen for letting me be the host for the time being!

Mindful Monday is a blog feature to support each other on our mindful and healthy journeys. It is not a challenge but a community of bloggers who post insightful posts on Mondays which make us think, change and hopefully act too.

Please feel free to leave your link to your Mindful Monday post in the comments, so the Mindful Monday community has the chance to head over to your place and give and get support.

I am looking forward to reading your insights for this week!



I had time off work last week and it was an odd experience. Not that strange things had happened but I was strange somehow. I do not drink an awful lot of alcohol, always make sure I stay in my budget with our food and keep sugars and coffee at a minimum.

Last week I thought: “Bugger that!” (sorry for my language)

I had such an urge to drink some Guinness the only beer I like that I got a pack for the husband and myself and happily drank along. I had some distinguished cider (yeah! right! it was the good old Savannah) in the evening and a mug of coffee in the morning with lots of spices, cream and chocolate. I was on holiday after all. You have to spoil yourself sometimes!

At the same time, I was mindful of the fact how much I feel guilty when I do these things. It feels like I have to punish myself for whatever sin I have committed when I was young or in a former life and again I thought: “Bugger that!” (And no I do not apologize this time)

I have always been the sensible one. The grown-up one who was used as an example for her cousins of how well I behaved and how much responsibility I took from an early age on.

Of course, surviving abuse means you do things that are not that great and I have been a mean bastard towards my younger brother at times (sorry bruv I hope you know I love you). The adults around me often didn’t see that part of me and I did everything to hide it.

I suspect me trying to be the good girl all of my life was to hide what I have done. However, these things happened when I was a child and I didn’t know better. An abused child does develop guilt for many reasons and it is a huge problem for adult survivors of abuse.

Looking at what I drank and ate last week I realize that it is not that much. I didn’t get drunk and didn’t put on weight. But I really enjoyed the treats we had and felt extremely grateful that I have the chance to buy us these things.

It was a very freeing experience and I hope it was symbolical for me letting go of other guilt that I still feel. In my experience feeling guilty doesn’t help to resolve a situation or to find healing. Feeling guilty keeps us in a vicious circle of resentment and acting out that makes you feel even guiltier.

Maybe the best “weapon” against feeling guilty is counting your blessings and to count your blessings you need to have achieved a certain amount of mindfulness.

I must have managed some breaking out of my guilt prison because I managed to walk every day for at least 30 min and at a few times even double that. That I think was quite something!

What do you feel guilty about and how do you manage to let the guilt go?


One thought on “Mindful Monday ~ Bugger That! (Sorry for my bad language)

  1. I am an abuse survivor and I struggle with guilt on a daily basis. I feel guilty for things that have absolutely nothing to do with me. I agree with everything you have said here and appreciate you so much for saying it. I’m so happy you took the opportunity to splurge and enjoy yourself, and I hope you were able to do it without too much guilt. Love you Bee! ❤


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